Empaths walk into every single relationship, whether that be through friendship/work/romance/acquaintanceship/family et al with only ONE SINGLE MINDSET.
We see everyone as equal and good and kind.
Even when a few dark things happen (Red Flags in psych-speak) we always give the benefit of the doubt because everyone has bad days and down days.
Then we go – BAM! Oh shit. My stupid.
That smile that never quite reaches the eyes. That tone of voice. The coldness of the all-too-familiar turned shoulder. The sugar-sweet phrase spoken only to disarm and disguise.
But we’ve already invested so much of ourselves that to turn away is The Hardest Thing To Do. Why? Because we KNOW the utter pain of rejection.
And we will eat ourselves up with an unholy feeling of failure.
Kerching! The Narcs coin.
You are pathetic. I am so much better. Let’s keep dancing this wonderful tango of abuse and self-harm.
It’s so ugly.